Dear Neil,

I have problems with the bathroom like Extramask. I’m 24 years old, a virgin and I’ve have never had a girlfriend.

When I was younger I was fat, but now I’m at a good weight. When I was fat, I didn’t have a problem with the bathroom, but now when I want to go to the bathroom and there are people in there, I start getting a feeling between fear, anxiety and like I really want out. I have suffered 4 hours or more without going to the bathroom before. It’s bad for me, I know.

I’ve tried to wait in the bathroom until I can pee, but I can’t. I don’t know why, but on special occasions I can pee with people around without any problems, but it’s only in special bathrooms and moments. Can you help me?

–José